Bill Custer's thought sphere

Love is beneficial change.

We appreciate, value and respect steadfast love: a commitment that demonstrates integrity. Yet flows of love are always in change, the communications and actions are dynamic inside the solid connection. Just as a river keeps to the banks yet is always is moving water downstream. Dynamic means responsive.

It’s important to distinguish the dynamics of the flow itself and the commitment to “be there” to handle anything that comes in life. There’s a difference between a love connection and what is flowing inside that connection which creates qualities we experience in love. There’s a difference between a stable situation that holds a love connection together, and the words and actions which create and show love continuously.

A solid love connection has sustaining qualities: integrity and certainty. These are the foundation for a great relationship, and communication about what may be best for both people together, as well as best for each in their individualities. It takes work to create that kind of alignment, and it usually takes alignment in many quarters of life and love. Each one is a building block for creativity, together and apart.

But we can’t stop the building and creating stuff, because Love is beneficial change. These good intentions to show love to one another are constantly making small beneficial changes in our existences. I submit that any beneficial change promotes love, and each kind of demonstration of love generates beneficial change. Even when our body suffers, our minds seem to benefit somehow, there is so much evidence and testimony. In a relationship, just cooking a nice, thoughtful meal, or going out to a new restaurant is essentially creating beneficial change.

A litmus test of love? Is it beneficial? Not the circumstance, situation or the existence of the connection, but what you are thinking, saying and doing, on your own and with other people. Since we essentially choose between love and no love in everything we do, we have to make the right choice, that’s all. There’s always some work involved, but love really does make everything better. And words and acts which make things better also generate love.